Ilkeston Health Centre, South Street, Ilkeston, Derbyshire, DE7 5PZ.  Tel: 0115 932 2968

Bereavement support

We’re here to help you!

Grief is a natural response to the death of a loved one, and it affects people in different ways. There is no set amount of grief a person will feel, or time they will grieve for.

1 in 5 adults in the UK who were bereaved of a close family member said they wished they had more support.

GOV UK offers a step by step guide on what to do when someone dies.

This NHS choices website offers videos where other people discuss their stories and how they dealt with grief, you may find it comforting to hear that you are not alone.

NHS Mood zone

This NHS choices article offers support on coping with grief, what you can do to overcome your grief and other people’s stories of grief.

NHS choices have another article on dealing with grief and loss.

The Compassionate Friends

“TCF offers many different kinds of support for bereaved families. Whatever the cause of your loss, wherever you are in the UK, and whatever your circumstances – we are here to help.”

TCF offer online support, a telephone helpline, your loss section, resources and supportive events.

They also have local services, and there is a support group in Long Eaton. If you are interested in joining you can contact the group via a form on the website.

You can visit their website for support or call the helpline on 0345 123 2304.

Cruse Bereavement Care

Cruse offer support, advice and information to children, young people and adults when someone dies. They provide face to face, telephone, email and website support.

Cruse work with British Red Cross and the Co-op to provide More Than Words groups, designed to promote inclusion and reduce feelings of loneliness. You can get in contact with their Nottinghamshire More than Words group on 0115 924 4404 or email nottinghamshire@cruse.org.uk.

You can call their national helpline on 0808 808 1677, or use their website to get support and hear other people’s experiences and stories.

Cruse bereavement care also has a service for young people called Hope Again, this allows young people and families to share their experiences of grief and support each other via blogs and videos.

Macmillan cancer support

Macmillan provides information on their website on how to cope with bereavement. There are sections on how grief can affect you and what might help you in this difficult time.

Loss of a Partner

The loss of a partner can be particularly hard; you might find you have to make a lot of serious decisions e.g. funeral arrangements and finances. You may also have to inform children and other family members.

This loss can sometimes be worse if your partner dies at a young age.

Widowed and young (WAY)

WAY is a charity that provides support to men and women under the age of 50 when their partner has died.

WAY is a peer led support group run by volunteers who have been in similar situations themselves, therefore can relate and offer advice based on their own experiences. Its members have a 24 hour chatroom on the website; a 24 hour helpline and hold regular social events. For more information you can visit their website.

Although WAY is a group for under 50’s, they have another service called WAY up for people who have been widowed after their 51st birthdays. You can visit their website for more details on the group.

Loss of a child

The loss of a child can be particularly distressing. No matter the age of the child you may feel a sense of injustice of what they did not get to do and you may feel responsible for the child’s death – although it is not your fault.

Child Bereavement UK

Child Bereavement supports families when a baby or child of any age dies or is dying, or when a child is facing bereavement.

Contact them on their Helpline: 0800 02 888 40 or email support@childbereavementuk.org. Find out more about Child Bereavement UK.

The Lullaby Trust

The Lullaby Trust offers advice to anyone affected by the sudden loss of a baby or young child. They have a bereavement support helpline on 0808 802 6868.

They also offer a discussion forum that can be found on the website, a care of next infant service (this supports parents before and after the birth of a new baby, which they may be worried about if they have lost a child previously) and befriender’s services so you can talk to others in your situation.

Find out more about online support available from the Lullaby Trust.

Loss due to suicide

Each year around 6,000 families are affected by suicide. Coping with bereavement after suicide can be more difficult than dealing with other types of loss as it can cause a wider range of emotions including guilt, anger, shame, feelings of rejection, sadness and fear. You may be finding it hard to come to terms with the death as it may be a shock.

Through such a difficult and confusing time there is support available.

Survivors of Bereavement by Suicide

Survivors of Bereavement by Suicide are a charity who focuses on helping people cope with bereavement by suicide.

“We exist to meet the needs and overcome the isolation experienced by people over 18 who have been bereaved by suicide.”

They offer a helpline on 0300 111 5056, open 9am to 9pm Monday to Friday. Alternatively they have an email service (sobs.support@hotmail.com) where you can talk to someone who has also been bereaved by suicide; however you may not receive an immediate response. For more information on this service, go to their website.

They also have local support groups, with one locally in Ilkeston. For more information on this you can contact Eric on 0115 944 1117 (9am-5pm) or email admin@uksobs.org..

Papyrus

Papyrus is a service aimed for children; they offer support and advice for young people having lost someone to suicide, someone with thoughts of suicide or if they are worried about someone else who may be considering suicide.

You can visit their website for access to these support services and information.

Loss of a Parent

No matter what age you are when your parent dies, the loss and grief you feel can be significant, as they have been such a big influence on your life.

Child Bereavement UK

Child Bereavement UK also offer support for young people experiencing grief themselves through the loss of a parent.

You can email support@childbereavementuk.org or call on 0800 02 888 40. They can help you to find support and have a young people’s advisory group. Check out the website where other children share their own experiences of grief and offer support to each other.

Loss of someone you care for

After losing someone you cared for, especially if a lot of your time was spent caring for them, it can make your life feel empty.

Carers UK

Carers UK have an article on coping with bereavement as a carer, which gives you advice on how to handle your loss.

NHS Website

The NHS Website also has a useful article on end of life care, what you can expect and planning for the future.

This page can also be used by someone who has a terminal illness and is approaching the end of their life.